7 Ways to Build Self Confidence and Turn a Bad Day Around

Some days can get really heavy, really long and tiresome.
Other days are easy, you are happy.

Why is there a difference?

How I turned around a bad month
I was in bad financial shape coming into the month.
During the month my car broke down, the bank increased the rate of interest on my house and the cats needed to go to the vet for checkups.
So financially it was a bad month, but that wasn’t all.

Me and my wife had been fighting, mostly about finance and over working, and it was taking its toll.
It was the middle of winter so it was very dark and no sports to keep me happy and in shape so I was gaining weight and at work things weren’t going well.

It was a very tough time for me.

Luckily I realized I could do something about it.
I realized that my mood was up to me, I reminded myself of the phrase “Response-able” coined by Stephen Covey in his book “the 7 habits of highly effective people”.

The 7 tips I am about to share are what I used to turn my mood and thanks to that my bad month around.

1. “I am going to be happy today!”
Self affirmations are my favorite technique for becoming happy. When you start consciously repeating positive phrases to yourself it slowly becomes a habit. Soon you will unconsciously keep telling yourself positive things.

You change the little voice in your head from negative into your very own cheerleader.
Try repeating things like “I like myself, I am going to be happy today, I can do it!” every day and you will soon notice a difference in your inner speech.

2. I can chose my response to any situation
How we feel isn’t so much an affect of what happens to us as it is a result of how we respond to that situation.
You can chose to get angry, to get mad, to overeat, to be depressed or you can chose to do something about it, to shake it off, to find a solution, to make a plan.

As you can see one is constructive, the other destructive, one makes you feel good, the other feel bad.

What I learned was that I have the power to chose my response to any situation and with this power, my life started changing.

3. Make an action plan for each problem
Whenever you have a problem that feels insurmountable start by visualizing a perfect outcome to that situation, how would it look if this situation was resolved perfectly?

Now don’t try to take on the whole problem at once, break it down into small actionable steps.
What can you do to move you nearer to the ideal solution?
What steps can you take? What action can you take today?

4. Stop procrastinating and get to work
One of the reasons I was stuck in bad times was that I felt as though it was too much.
I didn’t know where to start, I didn’t want to start.

Get back to work!
The only way to solve the problems is to solve it. Do something about them, anything.

In this article I go over the 21 tips shared by Brian Tracy in his book Eat That Frog to overcome procrastination.

5. Talk to someone you trust about your troubles – just let it out
My friend Bill Dorman recently did this on his blog, you might know him from his comments here at Looking to Business, he told everyone following his blog about how he felt and the stress he was under.

The support was astounding, people wanted to help.
Even if you don’t have the same following Bill has, if you ask for help you will probably get it. Your friends will want you to feel better and just getting it out really helps.

6. Ask for help – you don’t need to do it alone
Just like the above example you might need other people.
It isn’t bad to ask for help, ask your friends/parents/bank if they can lend you money or help you out with a problem.
Most people will help, they might not be able to lend you money but they can surely offer advice and lend you their time.

7. Chose to be happy and the good will come
The last thing that really changed it all around for me was when I decided that I was going to be happy.
If you make the decision and live as a happy person you will see that most of your troubles go away, they aren’t as important or overwhelming.

You can do it, just be positive!

You can turn bad days around; it is all about making the decision to do so. When you do, magical things happen, you see that you really have the power to change your life, to make a difference and become totally in control over your own life.

The next time you are having a bad day remember that you can choose your own response and that you can make today a good day, if you want.

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16 Responses to 7 Ways to Build Self Confidence and Turn a Bad Day Around

  1. Marlee says:

    Sometimes we just need a reminder. This is perfect. Thanks Daniel.

    • Daniel M. Wood says:

      Hey Marlee,

      Thanks for commenting, sorry for my late reply.
      Haven’t had internet for a couple days.

  2. Thank you, as mentioned above, for the reminder. I have that choice to be happy – and I’m going to make the choice well! I have full faith and trust that if I choose to be happy, the good will come. It always has – and it won’t fail me now.

    • Graham Lutz says:

      Christian – that was one of those “my dad always said” type of things for me. When I was a kid I had a serious temper and he always told me that it’s up to me how I react. It’s always good to get a reminder!

    • Daniel M. Wood says:

      Hey Christian,

      Happiness is a set of mind, one that only you can put yourself in.
      There are lots of people with wonderful lives who are still not happy while people with very difficult are happy every day.

      Keep that mindset Christian and I am sure you will do well.

  3. Hey Daniel,
    I like the honesty of your post. I am suspect of relationships that lack conflict. Real people have agendas that differ and the differences create tension. When this reality isn’t acknowledged then passive aggressive behavior raises its ugly head and then you really have problems. To quote my wife “when two people are exactly alike one of them isn’t necessary” LOL Good luck my friend and keep fighting the good battle.

    • Daniel M. Wood says:

      Hey Riley,

      That was a very interesting quote and you are right you need a difference of opinion if you are to find the better paths and solutions to problems.

      It is important that you show respect though, a fight will never end well if you don’t respect your counterpart.

  4. Daniel, I loved this man for two reasons:

    1. You were so honest at the beginning talking about a period you went through that was unpleasent. I think too many bloggers act like everything is always a bed of roses, never stressful or down or whatever. But you kept this ‘real’ D’, which is awesome.

    2. The list of 7 was great. I mean REALLY great. If people just did those 7 things on a consistent basis, they’d be much, much happier.

    Have a great weekend my friend, and thanks for all your hard work.


    • Daniel M. Wood says:

      Thanks Marcus,
      I try to share from what I have done, it is because of problems I am the person I am today.

      The whole point of this blog is to help people improve, why not help them learn from my own lessons?

      Thanks a lot for your praise on my list, I try to follow it, not always successfully but I keep it in mind and it really helps.

  5. Dan O'Neil says:

    Hi Daniel,

    Great post – I think most people can relate to feeling this way at some points in their life. It’s funny how confidence seems to abandon us when the pressure gets on and we find ourselves running around not really knowing what to do.

    It’s great that you had the presence of mind to be able to stop and take a look at what you were doing that was causing the indecision and pain. Understanding that you can choose how you feel is incredibly powerful too… most people think that it’s things and circumstances that make them happy, but it’s not. Happy is already in there, you just have to let it out!

    • Hey Dan,

      You are completely right. Happiness comes from within, not from without.
      It is up to you how you feel. There are people all over the world who are very happy, but own nothing and people who aer rich, successful and very unhappy.

      It isn’t the outward circumstances that do it, we chose.

  6. You know what helped me the most? Recognizing that *everything* has a solution. And the faster you respond to things, the easier they are to deal with. This of course applies to all things in business and in personal life.

    • Daniel M. Wood says:

      Hey Ricardo,

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.
      Brilliant comment. Everything does have a solution, as long as you focus on the good and try to find the solutions you will spend a lot less time worrying and a lot more acting.

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