A lot of meetings are very inefficient, for many reasons.
One reason is that everyone wants to shine, be heard and make their point, this causes them to not listen to their colleagues and constantly interrupt each other.
Often you see people, who as it turns out, have the same opinion fight about it and disagree for 30 minutes before they both angrily agree to disagree but want to do the same things…
Enter the talking stick
The talking stick is a great tool that forces people to listen.
When you have listened and understood your colleague you may ask for the talking stick and say what you think.
1. Only the one holding the talking stick may speak.
2. The others seek to understand, they may ask you to restate your point to clarify to make sure they understand but they never judge or argue until they have the talking stick.
3. When the one speaking feels that he or she is fully understood they pass the stick. It is important that they feel understood, if they don’t they keep the stick and try to make everyone understand what they mean.
This forces your colleagues to listen and then rephrase back what you mean before they start replying with their own ideas. That way everyone will know what the others mean and can evaluate it.
I have seen this tool used effectively many times.
In the beginning you will often find some resistance, people don’t want to listen; they think it will make the meeting take a longer time. But once it because a habit the talking stick makes sure that everyone gets heard, that everyone feels understood and that you can tap the minds of all in the room to make sure you make the best decisions.
It also saves a lot of time that is otherwise waster arguing when the people arguing are really on the same side.
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